Co-parents can usually work well together as a parenting team, so it may shock them when they have difficulties communicating. This may come because of a stressful situation or due to a disagreement.
There are several things that may help to keep the situation under control when things happen and co-parenting communication gets tense. While different circumstances may require other solutions, these three points are usually appropriate for any challenging communication.
Stay focused on the children
The needs of the children must always remain as the focal point of the situation. It can help to think logically about everything that’s going on. Allowing emotions to rule the situation can lead to making poor decisions and it could lead to even more difficulty with communication.
Avoid laying blame
Contentious situations will almost always get worse if either party is blaming the other. Discuss the problem and potential solutions without laying blame so the matter can be resolved as quickly as possible.
Know when to take a step back
There will be times when the tension becomes so great that coming to a resolution is impossible at that time. This is when stepping back can be the best option. Taking a break for each person to gather their thoughts and come back with a clearer head ready to work on a solution.
It may help to include guidelines for potentially contentious subjects in the parenting plan. This allows both parents to understand their rights and responsibilities. Getting the parenting plan together involves outlining what the kids need now. The plan can be modified as the kids’ needs change.